For Lack of a Better Word by Thea Hillman

Memoir of a lesbian poet-activist who grew up intersexed, fat and Jewish in 1980s California.
The discoveries Thea Hillman brings back from America's gender underground are as intimate as a diary; compelling stories that take a no-holds barred look at sex, gender family and community. What does it mean to be a woman? To be intersexed? Queer? Jewish? Fat? Femme? Middle class? An activist and author? What happens when these identities are combined? Separated? Blurred or blown apart? Here are the universal lessons that can be found in a petrified world.