When one partner gets cancer, the other disappears. The medical system doesn’t see them. The community circles around the patient and forgets the person standing beside her. Jean Gelman Taylor writes from that invisible position—the partner, not the one dying, but the one watching someone she loves move through radiotherapy and chemotherapy and the knowledge that it might not work.
What she documents is the particular loneliness of that position. The terror of watching someone deteriorate. The strange calm that comes from proximity to death—not acceptance exactly, but a kind of resignation that accompanies the knowledge that some things can’t be controlled or negotiated. The rage at being forgotten. The guilt about the rage.
The book is also about a lesbian partnership under extreme pressure. What holds. What cracks. The strengths of their relationship become visible because they have to. So do the failures. Taylor doesn’t sentimentalize either one. She writes about the ways people fail each other during illness and the ways they don’t. About what community provides and what community withholds. About the difference between being present and being seen.
What survives the cancer—whether that’s the partner or the partnership or just the memory of what they built together—becomes the territory the memoir traces. The writing sits at the intersection of multiple forms: illness narrative, lesbian life writing, the politics of care. The specificity of being a woman loving another woman while that woman is dying. The ways institutional and social systems fail queer partnerships. The way survival itself becomes a political act when the system isn’t designed to keep you alive.
Details
| ISBN: 9781875559992 |
| Subtitle: A Story About The Effects Of Cancer |
| Genre: Health; Relationships |
| Subject(s): Biographies & Memoirs; Cancer; Community & Culture; Diseases & Physical Ailments; Health, Fitness & Dieting; LGBTQ+ Demographic Studies; Medical; Memoirs; Politics & Social Sciences; Professionals & Academics; Social Sciences; Women |
| Publication Date: 2000-09-01 |
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| Publisher: Spinifex Press |
| Language: English |
| Format: Paperback |
| Pages: 291 |
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| Notes: Jean Gelman Taylor is primarily known as a historian of Southeast Asia and Indonesia, with a substantial academic career. The C-Word is a departure from that work — a personal memoir published by Spinifex Press, the Australian feminist and lesbian publishing house. The book’s dual focus on cancer and lesbian partnership makes it relatively rare in both illness memoir and LGBTQ life writing. |
| Book_ID: 106159 |